Growing up being a piece of brownie I had troubles facing the world. Especially when I entered in my teen years. Pimples, spots, etc made their grand entry and the world got meaner. And back then when someone would want me to be in front of the camera, I always covered my face or turn it into a black and white photo so nobody would know my real color or see how dark my spots were.
However, now it’s a completely other scenario. I am very confident about myself. The way I look, talk, smile and even come in front of the camera all the time basically.
Since then to now I’ve learnt a few things.
1 – The most important thing is to love yourself! Until and unless you don’t love yourself, nothing about yourself will make you happy. Love yourself no matter what because nobody can you more than you! And I’ve personally learnt that myself. I used to hate myself, every little thing about myself but then I realised it was doing no good. So one day I just stopped thinking bad things about myself and wrote down things I loved about myself everyday. Soon I actually started seeing the good in me.
2 – The next thing is Make a List of things you want to improve about yourself. Like I wanted to have a healthy glowing skin so I started having a day and night skincare routine. Make that list and start doing them one by one. And as you go on, scratch them of your list. At the end of the year you’ll see your own improvement. Writing things you want to see in yourself and seeing the list everyday while be a constant reminder and soon you’ll see the improvements in yourself.
3 – “People talk.” Accept the fact. They’ll talk in front of you and behind your back, so Never Ever pay attention to them! That’s what mostly gets a person down. Not everybody is like you, nor will they get what you might find beautiful. Trust me I’ve had the same problem, and still go through it. When I try a makeup look which is not usually done, some people see at as art and love it but some think I am crazy. I have stopped paying attention to them. I look at their comments and smile knowing not everybody will have a mind like mine. That’s how much confidence I have in myself. Though there was time when a word could make a whole lot of difference and immediately changed my mind forever but that’s been weak. We are not weak! People who say mean things are weak! Doesn’t matter if you are the only one who would wear it, do it, etc but always be that ONE! YOU ARE MORE THAN THOSE COMMENTS.
4 – Always be thankful to your critics. I’ve had friends who were ashamed to tell their friends that they talked to me. That made me cry. They didnt say it in my face but nobody’s that stupid. But I am soo thankful to all of them who were ashamed or commented because now they are like WOW! Make the regret! I know I said not to pay attention to such comments and yes dont! But prove them wrong always. I love proving people wrong. The more they say I cant or I am not able to. The more I work only to throw it on their face. This not only gives you the happiness but mostly makes you a stronger and confident being. People who once thought I was too dark and dirty now praise me. Accept rejections like a princess but come as the Queen who owns the place.
5 – Do what you love and wear what you’re comfortable in. Find your style ( that is another whole post that I’ll post soon). I remember being a teenager I would always go with the trend even if I didnt like it. Or that one thing mainly happens with every teenage girl…liking whatever your crush likes so that he likes you back. I did that to. I would make his favourite color mine even though it wasn’t. I would make his favourite songs my playlist but I forced myself to like it. Why? Because I wasnt confident enough to show the real me knowing he wouldn’t like it. Thinking about it now makes me cringe but smile too. I wish I had someone to tell me back then. We are all unique in our own ways and being confident in ourselves makes our personality stand out and spark amongst all of them.
6 – Smile more! Yes. That is soo important. Nowadays we dont smile much. Its always a pout or a funny face. Smile in your pictures, smile at people who loves you, who dont love you. Just smile. You’ll instantly feel happy. And being happy with oneself helps bringing confidence. I hated smiling at pictures because I thought my smile made me look even more ugly but no smile is ugly. Every smile is different and soo very beautiful. Just look at the mirror every morning and stop pointing out what new acne appeared but smile and say out loud, ” You’re so beautiful.” You’ll have the best day.
7 – And Fake it till you make it. Always..always. When you start to fake that you love yourself, your mind starts thinking as if it is the ultimate truth and starts working like that. When you make your mind hate yourself then obviously you can undo it. Even with photos, start faking like you’re the next top model and soon you will see the changes on how confident you look on every photo. I do too. I look at the camera as if I was born a star. Yes it doesn’t happen in a day but gradually it does.
These were my tricks on growing my self confidence and loving myself for who I was. If you have any other tricks please comment down below so that everyone can know and have a great loving community.